About 7 years ago I took a trip to Spain with my little sister and my Aunt. The three of us were shopping in a tiny hole-in-the-wall jewelry shop when my Aunt stopped and randomly complimented a woman on her outfit. This woman was visiting Spain from Germany and her and my Aunt exchanged numbers and E-mails. A few years later my Aunty told me she had a friend coming to stay with her in Portland (where she lived at the time). It ended up being the same woman that she met in that shop, who she had kept in touch with all that time. Moral of the story is that one small act of kindness could lead you to an endless amount of possibilities.
I took this challenge because I am the type of person who really keeps to myself a lot, yet I know how good it makes me feel when somebody I know or a stranger randomly compliments me. I thought it would be a good way to sort of break out of my own shell and make somebody feel good at the same time. It ended up being a rewarding experience and I’ve actually made it my goal to continue this. I don’t exactly have a set amount of compliments I want to give out each week, but naturally whenever I admire something about someone I will make it my goal to speak up and let them know.
When I remembered about this challenge the first day, I wanted to make sure that I got it out of the way while I was at school on Monday, because I knew I wouldn’t be going back outside of my house for the rest of the day after I got home from school. Because of this, it was on my mind constantly. I didn’t want to compliment somebody just for the sake of the challenge either, I wanted it to be genuine at the same time. I ended up going to get coffee after class, a normal routine of mine, and working at the coffee shop was a girl and her make-up was SO pretty. Almost as if I just blurted it out, I told her I loved her make-up and asked her what kind of highlighter she wears. Almost any girl out there will agree with me when I say that when girls compliment each other’s make-up, it’s an instantaneous friendship! The girl smiled and we got into a short conversation about products and how expensive some make-up can be. I could tell she appreciated the compliment when I initially said it, and because it wasn’t a forced compliment, I didn’t even think about it before going into it.
The second day I almost forgot about the challenge until I was at work for the night. My co-worker and I got into a conversation about what we want to do after school and the kind of places we would want to live in. She mentioned wanting to live in a big city one day, since she grew up in a small town, but she didn’t think that she ever would. In the end I ended up telling her that I admired her perseverance in school and how hardworking she has to be to continue on and get her master’s degree (something she is working on now). If she continued to strive and work hard she could live anywhere she wanted. I could tell that it really raised her spirits and boosted her confidence knowing that somebody with an outside perspective genuinely thought that of her. This made me feel pretty good inside knowing I sparked some sort of flame in her.
The third day I was at work (I work in a restaurant) when when a lady walked up with her two daughters who were roughly around 2 and 5 years old. She mentioned that her husband was in a conference and she and her daughters wanted to grab lunch in the meantime. I told the woman how adorable her daughters were and how cute of a family they looked like. She said thank you and it seemed like she appreciated the compliment. I’m sure as a mother of two young children times can be tough but a small compliment like that can flip somebody’s day around.